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START HERE · 6 MINThe Complete Guide to Custody SchedulesThe five custody patterns most families end up with, what each one costs you in handoffs, how to choose between them, and the four things that break a schedule that looked fine on paper.Read the guide →

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CUSTODY SCHEDULING · 3 MINHow a 2-2-3 Custody Schedule WorksThe 2-2-3 fortnight laid out day by day, the six-handoff cost nobody mentions, who it suits, and how it handles holidays, sick days and summer.Updated Aug 1, 2026

CUSTODY SCHEDULING · 3 MIN2-2-5-5 Custody Schedule: Complete GuideThe 2-2-5-5 fortnight day by day, why fixed weekdays make it easier to remember than 2-2-3, the five-day gap it creates, and what to check before you commit.Updated Aug 1, 2026

CUSTODY SCHEDULING · 3 MINAlternating Weekends Custody CalendarWhat an every-other-weekend schedule really adds up to, the variations that make it fairer, and the exact details to write down so it stops causing arguments.Updated Aug 1, 2026

Even, by income, or by time

SHARED COSTS · 3 MINHow to Split Child Expenses Fairly Between Co-ParentsThe three split methods worked through on the same real numbers, how to pick one, and the four rules that stop shared costs turning into a monthly argument.Updated Aug 1, 2026

CUSTODY SCHEDULING · 3 MIN50/50 Custody Schedules: Common Patterns and TradeoffsFour ways to split time evenly, compared on the things that actually differ: handoff count, longest gap, and how each one survives school, work and summer.Updated Aug 1, 2026

CUSTODY SCHEDULING · 3 MINCustody Schedules for Toddlers: What to ConsiderWhy transition quality matters more than the rotation at this age, which patterns tend to fit, the times of day to avoid, and what to carry between homes.Updated Aug 1, 2026

$72,000 and $45,000 incomes

SHARED COSTS · 3 MINIncome-Proportional Child Expense SplitsHow to calculate an income-proportional split, what counts as income, worked examples at three income gaps, and the record-keeping that makes it hold up.Updated Aug 1, 2026

School fees ✓Co-pays ✓Soccer ✓Phone?Party gifts?Childcare ✓

SHARED COSTS · 3 MINWhat Counts as a Shared Child Expense?A category-by-category list of what usually counts, what usually does not, and the grey areas worth settling in writing before somebody spends the money.Updated Aug 1, 2026

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HOLIDAY CUSTODY · 3 MINThe Complete Guide to Holiday Custody SchedulesHow to divide the holidays without an annual argument: the four splitting methods, a full-year checklist, and the details each date needs before it arrives.Updated Aug 1, 2026

Per our agreement, AGAIN…Can we do 5:30 at school?Works. See you then.

CONFLICT AND COMMUNICATION · 3 MINCo-Parenting Communication: A Practical GuideWhy most logistics friction is ambiguity rather than disagreement, the structural fixes that work, and wording you can reuse for the conversations that keep going wrong.Updated Aug 1, 2026

SHIFT WORK · 4 MINThe Complete Guide to Co-Parenting on a Shift ScheduleWhy some shift rotations can never fit a fixed-weekday custody plan, how to build recovery windows in on purpose, and what to write down about overtime before it happens.Updated Aug 1, 2026

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